P.S.

A few days ago, I was having a heated conversation with my 18 year old daughter about this blog and the issues that surround it. I suggested she 'follow' it and her response was, "But, I don't agree with you." I appreciate her opinions and I respect her. I know she has her own reasons. For example, her boyfriend is a Korean born adoptee, her mother is an adoptee, her older half sister was placed for adoption, and her cousin was adopted from Russia. She has been a quiet observer, yet entwined and directly effected by the world of adoption. 

Sometimes, I forget to step outside of my own head. I assume that because my perspective has been altered then those around me should be also. This paradigm shift didn't happen overnight. I recognize that there are adoptees and birthmothers with opposing views and I believe their feelings are valid. I may not agree but I'm certainly not in the business of persuasion (yes, I am.) I'm not trying to sound insensitive, but the views of adoptive parents don't carry that much weight with me. Their vision is tunneled by the gift of someone else's child and that's the extent of their adoption experience. But, I'm willing to listen.

My hope is that this opens up dialogue among people on all sides of the adoption triad (yes, even adoptive parents) and that we will see the complicated layers through one another's eyes.